In Turkish society, customs and traditions, especially on important days, continue from past to present. One of these traditions with deep meaning is offering coffee when asking for a girl. But this coffee is not like the classic Turkish coffees you know; It's almost like an ordeal for the groom... ("Of course, it's salty coffee!" we heard you say.) Our bride-to-be starts cooking this special coffee while the elders of the family are having a nice time inside... This flavor is mixed with salt instead of sugar and some spices. The legendary coffee is poured into the cup to be presented to the groom. So, what is the story of this salted coffee, where does it come from, what meaning does it have? Let's explain right away…
The Story of Salted Coffee: Why Was It Served?
When you learn why salted coffee was served in the past, you may say, "The meaning used today is very far away." In fact, if the marriage ceremony has not been held yet, you may have to decide whether to offer your future spouse salty or sweet coffee. Without leaving you wondering any further, let's explain the meanings of salted coffee in the past.
In the past, when arranged marriages were more common, the bride and groom-to-be would see each other for the first time during the marriage ceremony. At that time, they were not provided with the environment and conditions to talk to each other and express their ideas; Our bride-to-be would send a message to the groom-to-be with the coffee she would offer. If the bride-to-be didn't like the groom-to-be, she would offer him salty coffee; if he did, she would offer him sweet coffee. The groom-to-be, sipping his coffee, interprets the message sent by the bride-to-be and acts accordingly. While the groom-to-be and his family who drank coffee with sugar were at the stage of asking for a girl, the one who was offered salty coffee would ask permission from the bride-to-be's family and get up...
Salted Coffee Tradition Today
Bride candidates will be most excited about; Perhaps one of the ceremonies that will make your hands shake and your feet tangle is the ceremony of asking for a girl. It is important that the coffee is frothy, rich and tastes good. We can say that our groom candidate will be very excited at this important ceremony. Because he should drink the salty coffee offered to him as if he were drinking honey sherbet.
In today's marriage ceremony, salted coffee is offered to the groom-to-be; It is a ritual performed to measure the groom's love. In fact, we can say that this is a pleasant tradition where happy moments are experienced. This coffee, which does not taste very drinkable, is offered to the groom by the bride's lady. The criterion here is this: The shape of the groom-to-be's face while drinking the coffee... Our groom-to-be must sip his coffee as if he were drinking a very delicious coffee, without grimacing. Otherwise, it may break the hearts of our bride-to-be and her family, and she may even return empty-handed from the marriage ceremony. At this point, we can advise our brides-to-be to be a little fair to the grooms.
We have stated the meaning of serving salted coffee today and in the past. Here the choice is up to you; When your future spouse comes to ask for you, would you like to make a sweet coffee or a salty one? We are waiting your comments.
Anyone who drinks salty coffee to the fullest definitely wants it.
My fiancée brought me a very salty coffee during our engagement, saying I couldn't bear you, but I drank it because my love was stronger.
My own memory of salty coffee came to my mind and made me smile :) Oh friends, be careful about this in marriage, it's like torture, ahahaha.