Pre-wedding anxiety is a problem that many brides-to-be have to deal with. Thoughts such as the wedding preparation phases and the transition to a new order after the wedding sometimes envelop the brides-to-be with sweet hectic rosy dreams, and sometimes, unfortunately, they turn into nightmares. Both sweet and salty... This must be one of the first tests of marriage. It is of course possible to overcome these bittersweet moments.
The first thing to do to get rid of pre-wedding anxiety is to stop pretending that there are no problems. Do not ignore the problems. Instead of burying them, bring them to the surface, go over them so that the small accumulated worries do not turn into a big volcano by combining with the wedding day fatigue. For this reason, our first job is to identify the problems. Since we said let's go over the problems, let's first talk about the factors that cause pre-wedding anxiety identified by experts. Give yourself the opportunity to dwell on them and think about them. In the rest of our article, we will talk about simple but effective tips for solving these problems.
Causes of Premarital Anxiety
Oh, there are so many items that can be listed under this heading... But which issue will cause more stress to whom varies from the socio-economic structure of the people to their character structure. While some of us think long and hard about the costs, others worry about freedom. The new order, another house, adapting to someone... Questions like "Am I ready for marriage? Will I be able to make it work? Is this the right person?" echoing in our minds... Apart from all of these, the fact that the list of things to do in the name of wedding preparations is swollen and intense is a reason in itself.
Take a deep breath anyway. It is all so natural and applies to everyone going through this process that you are never alone. You just need to calm down a little. Let's take a look at the tips we have prepared for you to get rid of these anxieties.
The Most Expensive Doesn't Always Mean the Most Beautiful
Yes, you are right, I can hear you saying "We don't get married ten times". Yes, you are right again, there is a continuous growth in the wedding industry, new trends that are changing and developing. At every new wedding, engagement or invitation you go to, you encounter a new beauty. Naturally, you take care of it and add it to your own wedding plans. But do you also think about how your increasing list of "preparations" can put you in a difficult situation after the wedding? Remember, marriage is not for making life difficult, but for spouses to make life easier for each other. May your ring be low in black but high in peace. Your wedding dress may not carry the wedding dress brand of the neighbor's daughter, but when you choose the right wedding dress model that reflects you, you will not lose anything from your elegance on your wedding day. If the financial issues are making you feel overwhelmed, consider your wedding cake, your hall, your jewelry, your hairdresser, your wedding flowers and even your tiara from this point of view. This kind of minimalist thinking will minimize your budgetary concerns.
Be Honest and Never Stop Communicating
Sincerity is a virtue that pays off quickly. Do not hesitate to talk to the person with whom you are going to build a life together about everything that gnaws at your head. Sharing your life with the person you love will bring you a lot of joy on the one hand and possible problems on the other. The only way to overcome these fears and anxieties is to stay in dialog with your partner at all times.
Plan, List, Take Note
You may look at your wedding as the biggest party of your life. You have entered into an intense preparation period. Time is running out day by day and you are worried that you won't make it. Plan. While doing this, remember that each stage is not the weight on your shoulders, but the sweet rush you are preparing together with your loved one. Write down everything you need to do. Writing is a proven method of calming down. As you write, your mind will move away from anxious thoughts and focus on what you need to do. Once you have made your list, don't forget to put a tick for each item you have accomplished. It will be good for you to see your to-do list diminish on white paper.
You Deserve a Coffee
Isn't everything about your recent times related to "weddings"? Wedding shopping, wedding advice, wedding blah blah blah... What do they say? There is refreshment in a change of venue. For example, a little girls' getaway with your favorite friends will definitely do you good. Don't forget that a sincere conversation over coffee with friends often has a psychotherapeutic effect.
Yes, when I say it like that, it sounds like a curse. Unfortunately, in many parts of our society, crying is still seen as weakness. Fortunately, this is not the case at all. If your wedding fears are accompanied by the urge to cry, don't strain yourself to hold back your tears. This will add tension on top of your worries. Crying acts as a tranquilizer. It causes the release of happiness hormones. Toxins are removed from the body. It helps you relax and allows you to face your problems. Perhaps we should look at the saying "I cry and I go" from this perspective.
You May Need Expert Advice
Before your wedding you identified your worries, confronted them and then fought to get rid of them. But do your fears still loom over you in all their glory? You should not dismiss the idea of seeking expert advice. Getting support from a marriage therapist or psychologist will give you confidence in the steps you will take. Expert help is often thought of as a step to be taken in case of post-marital problems. The truth is that there is nothing to be ashamed or shy about professional support at every stage of the relationship. If there is a problem you cannot solve, doing what is necessary from the beginning will give you a great advantage in the post-marital adjustment process. You will start a new life. "Marriage is the best promise of a lifetime." Don't you think it is worth it for the long, happy years you will spend together with the person you love?